There seem to be a lot of unsaid rules within the paranormal and spiritual circles. I was never really one for rules. I like to walk my own path and not the same as others. It has always been my way and worked for me. If I want something for example, I get it. If I want to do something, I do what it takes to be able to do it. All legally of course. There is a different between not following rules and not having morals. The thought came to me when I was playing with a new tarot deck I had purchased. As you may have seen on my page, I love collecting Tarot. I am not a psychic medium nor a person that does Tarot readings for people, it is just something I enjoy learning and doing. For me divination in the true sense is not about fortune telling, but self refection and often it allows me to dig deep within. Anyway one of the 'rules' of Tarot I was told many years ago was that you had to be gifted a tarot deck and that you shouldn't buy your own. I always thought this was ridiculous and it is probably more of a myth than a 'rule' but a number of people who told me this when I expressed interest in wanting to see what tarot was all about. It didn't matter how many hints I dropped, not one person gave me a tarot deck. I wasn't going to sit around waiting, so I went out and bought my own. And so began my ever growing collection. As I was sitting and admiring the new deck I had purchased, that silly comment so many people had uttered popped into my head. It made me then think about paranormal investigating and the 'rules' that many people imply you have to use to be a paranormal investigator.
Of course we must remember, there really are no 'rules' when it comes to paranormal investigating, no matter what anyone tells you. Protocols or controls are a bit different to rules and we will get to that a little later. There are also rules you may need to adhere to when attending a tour for example which again is a bit different. It is a general rule of most venues for example to not allow anyone under the influence of drugs and alcohol to attend a tour. This would apply on most tours, not just a paranormal tour. It is a general rule to turn off mobile phones to not distract or interrupt the tour as another example. I am talking about a lot of the statements that people tell those entering the paranormal field that make out they are rules. I myself was told many of these when I first started out and quite a few didn't make sense to me. It soon became clear that a lot of these rules were not based on any other than a person's belief system. While these may be part of a ritual or routine for one person, doesn't mean that everyone has to follow.
An example of one of the 'rules' I was told was: "You must tell the spirits at the end of the night to stay at the location or they will follow you home". For probably the first year of paranormal investigating, I did this because that is what I was told you had to do from my very first investigation. I soon started to question it because it wasn't matching up with my own experiences and what I believed. If this is something you feel you have to do to assert and protect yourself or even for your own piece of mind, then absolutely do it! By telling people this is what they have to do, you are instilling a fear in them that a spirit is going to follow them home. By telling people this 'rule' it can be causing un-necessary distress. The human mind and the power of suggestion is so very strong that a person could go home on edge worried a spirit has followed them. Any noise at nighttime suddenly feeds into this fear. I have had a person on a tour once tell someone they had a demonic attachment. Now luckily this person didn't actually believe that and laughed it off. What if it was someone else that was more impressionable? These kind of comments can wreck havoc on a person's life and mental state.
As paranormal investigators, we have to be extremely careful about the statements we make to people, especially if you are visiting someone in their private home to 'help' them. I can't tell you how many people in the past I have spoken to who have had paranormal teams go into their home to help with reported activity and treat it like a 'free investigation'. They will go in and have a play with the equipment and make some statements and then leave. They get to go home and sleep. The people in the house are left with the aftermath and scared of the statements which are made. They end up terrified in their own home because of throw away comments from the paranormal team who have visited them.
There is no official rulebook when it comes to paranormal investigating. What works for one person, doesn't work for another. It depends on your belief systems and what you are looking for. Of course a lot of different methods have 'control' or protocols that have been suggested over the years to assist in trying to make the field of investigating a little more credible when it comes to presenting evidence. Even so, this is not a 'rule' that has to be followed. Think of it more like a set of guidelines. You can use them if you want, but they don't have to be followed. You may come up with something better that works for you. You may even find a better solution to bringing in said controls and tightening them up further. The thing of course to remember is, if you are going to be presenting your evidence for peer review, this is where controls are needed.
Rules were made to be broken. Just because you see someone investigating a certain way, asking certain questions, that doesn't mean that is what you have to do as well. A lot of people talk about paranormal protection for example. The problem is, protection is only as good as your belief in it. If a religious person tells you that you have to do a prayer at the end of each investigation to protect you but you don't believe it in, then it is not going to be of any benefit. We can give people suggestions, but we cannot push our beliefs onto others. The paranormal is based on our own experiences and belief systems. You walk your own path and essentially write your own rule book. Stick to your own side of the lane. Worry about what you are doing instead of trying to get others to do things the same way. If we all did everything the same way, well life would be pretty boring.
If we are going to get any closer to answers, we have to work together using our different belief systems, our different methods, embracing our different thoughts and trying new and different things. I am not much of a spiritual person, but I am not going to go ahead and tell a spiritual person they can't do what has worked for them all these years. In the same token, I expect that same respect back. We can all happily coexist with our different belief systems. In fact, we can use it to our advantage. When you think of what you are able to achieve on your own, think about what you could achieve if we all worked together?
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